Code of Conduct

The Code of Conduct is designed to fulfill the Palm Springs Jacks (PSJ) mission. You will be asked to leave an event for failing to follow the code, and you may also be denied entry to future events.

Click on each of the elements below to learn more.

No Alcohol/Drugs

No alcohol or drugs are allowed. Do not arrive under the influence of either.

Maintain Confidentiality

Do not reveal the identity of a Jack to anyone outside the club.

Phones and cameras are not allowed.

Talk Dirty, Not Politics

Talking dirty (even about sex acts that are not necessarily allowed at the event) or using words that many bators love to hear, like "penis" or "masturbate," is welcome. Conversations about politics, recipes, and knitting are not welcome. 

Clean Up

Neither "manscent" nor cologne is appreciated by everyone. Arrive freshly showered to an event, and don't leave a dirty mess behind you.

Strip Down

Aside from footwear, to be worn for safety and hygiene, getting naked is encouraged. The minimum requirement is to strip from the waist up or the waist down. This allows for fetish gear, such as a leather harness, jockstrap, or dress shirt and tie. Hats/caps are also welcome.

Bate, Don't Penetrate

Masturbation, exhibitionism, and voyeurism is always acceptable. Mutual masturbation, hugging, rubbing, kissing, and nipple play are also acceptable, with consent.

No oral/genital, oral/anal, genital/anal, or digital/anal penetration is allowed. Save this for an ordinary sex party.

No "lips below the hips."

With consent, members may ejaculate onto each other (face or body), and a Jack may consume another's semen (at his own risk), as long as there is no penetration and no "lips below the hips".

Get Consent, Respect Boundaries

In the absence of a wristband, always obtain consent from another Jack before your hand, other body part, or semen makes physical contact with any part of him. Never question someone's choice to withhold consent.

An optional wristband is available to express universal consent or a boundary to every Jack. You may wear, remove, or swap wristbands at any time during an event. Return them to the "used" container for disinfection prior to the next event.

Wristbands are optional. Click on each color to learn its meaning.


You can touch my penis.

Ask for consent to touch something else.


Don't touch my penis.

Ask for consent to touch something else.


You can cum on me.


Don't cum on me.