Code of Conduct

The Code of Conduct is designed to fulfill the Palm Springs Jacks (PSJ) mission, and is subject to change. You will be asked to leave an event for failing to follow the code or exhibiting inappropriate behavior, and you may also be denied entry to future events. 

Click on each heading below and read the full explanation!

Stay Sober

No alcohol or drugs are allowed. Do not arrive under the influence of either.

Maintain Confidentiality

Do not reveal the identity of a Jack to anyone outside the club.

Phones and cameras are not allowed.

Talk Dirty, Not Politics

Talking dirty (even about sex acts that are not necessarily allowed at the event) or using words that many bators love to hear, like "penis" or "masturbate," is welcome. Conversations about politics, recipes, and knitting are not welcome. 

Wash Up Before, Clean Up After

Neither "manscent" nor cologne is appreciated by everyone. Arrive freshly showered to an event.

If you ejaculate at an event, and your sperm landed somewhere other than another Jack (with his consent), be sure to clean it up with paper towels and a disinfectant (provided).

Strip Down

Aside from footwear, to be worn for safety and hygiene, getting naked is encouraged. The minimum requirement is to strip from the waist up or the waist down. This allows for fetish gear, such as a leather harness, jockstrap, or dress shirt and tie. Hats/caps are also welcome.

Bate, Don't Penetrate

Masturbation, exhibitionism, and voyeurism is always acceptable. Mutual masturbation, hugging, rubbing, kissing, and nipple play are also acceptable, with consent.

No oral/genital, oral/anal, genital/anal, or digital/anal penetration is allowed. Save this for an ordinary sex party.

No "lips below the hips."

With consent, members may ejaculate onto each other (face or body), and a Jack may consume another's semen at his own risk, as long as there is no penetration and no "lips below the hips".

Get Consent, Respect Boundaries

IN THE ABSENCE OF A WRISTBAND, always ask another Jack for his consent to let your hand, other body part, or semen make physical contact with ANY part of him. Never question someone's choice to withhold consent. 

About the (optional) Wristbands


Only wear a wristband if you want to give consent to (or withhold consent from) EVERYBODY IN ATTENDANCE. You may wear, remove, or swap wristbands at any time during an event. Return them to the "dirty" container for disinfection so they may be recycled for the next event. Click on each wristband color below to learn the meaning.


Yes. Anybody may touch my penis.


No. Nobody may touch my penis.


Yes. Anybody may ejaculate on me.


No. Nobody may ejaculate on me.